Interpersonal Communication 7-8

Ability to recognize which feelings are appropriate in which situations, and the skill to communicate those feelings effectively

Our experience and interpretation of internal sensations as they're shaped by physiology, perceptions, language and social experiences

Culturally based guidelines that define the emotional meaning of situations and events

Culturally based guidelines that tell us what we have a right to feel or are expected to feel in specific situations

Effort we invest to make ourselves feel what our culture defines as appropriate and not to feel what our culture defines as inappropriate in particular situations

Communication that seems to express feelings but doesn't actually describe what a person is feeling

We pxperience emotion when external stimuli cause physiological changes in us ((stimulus - physiological response - emotion))

Subjective perceptions shape what external phenomena means to us ((external event - perception of event - interpreted emotion - response))

Offers better explanation of how we move from experience to interpretation ((external event - physiological response - label for response - emotion))

Proposes that social rules and understandings shape what people feel and how they do or don't express their feelings ((framing rules - feeling rules - felt emotion - emotion work - felt emotion - emotional expression))

Create staisfying relationships, be comfortable with themselves, work effectively with others, better overall health

Learning what they should and shouldn't feel

Controlling outward expression of emotions rather than controlling feelings

Moment when you realize that you shouldn't voice what you feel/are thinking

Uses I language, own your own feelings, reduces potential for defensiveness, helps to identify with others